He will validate her, because women LOVE to be told how good they are at serving men, right?
But these men never once realized how they contributed to their own singlehood, because they didn't like any woman enough to treat her as a person. She is always as human to him as a Roomba with a Fleshlight attached would be. Because of this, these men cannot maintain any relationships they get. And women have definitely cottoned on to this pattern, which makes US even less likely to engage.
Way too many men want to “get” a girlfriend, like she's a nice car or a limited edition collectible. She is pictured doing all these lovely things for the guy, but his views on what he will do for her are often very surface-level and do not require him to actually do anything difficult.
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
He will… well, girls don't like sex, right? It's an obligation for her, so it doesn't matter that he doesn't like to perform cunnilingus and he doesn't keep his nails trimmed and feels weird about vibrators.
She will give him sex, and validation, and be in his corner, and keep his house nice, and make him attractive to other women, and make him feel masculine and virile.
To summarize, a partner is a nice addition to your life, but they are not now, nor have they ever been a “thing” that one can “get.” Looking at human relationships that way primes the relationship for failure, if one can even manage to persuade the other party that they DO actually like them as people.
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He will never cheat just because some women want a man who can successfully attract another woman, unless, ya know, the temptation is overwhelming. It's really her fault for one of her friends being a backstabbing bitch. She should understand that the friend bears all of the guilt, here, because he couldn't possibly turn down offered sex, especially because Girlfriend is now so frigid.
Wanting a relationship in general is not the same as wanting a relationship with a particular human being based on compatibility. Women seem to be a bit farther ahead in grokking this as a cohort than men are as a cohort.
These are patterns that I keep seeing women discussing - patterns that I have found in several of my own dating relationships. The lady goes out with a guy who bemoans how hard it was for him to be single, then, once he has her invested, demonstrates WHY it was so hard for him to be single - because he doesn't know how to function without a Mommy who he can also have sex with. It is unattractive in the extreme. Personally, seeing a man regress into high school or middle school behavior made the idea of sex feel downright pedophilic.
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Not liking women in general and not liking her as a person in particular.
He will make his girlfriend feel so feminine! Maids are feminine! Moms are feminine! Prostitutes are feminine!
He will… well, Mom never complained about the skid marks, or about the fact that he never washed a dish without getting the entire kitchen wet, and his college roommates never cared that he couldn't cook anything more complex than microwave nachos or that he didn't own sheets. That's what a girlfriend or a wife is for!
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He will be in her corner, unless her corner is that she is having some kind of annoying interpersonal drama that doesn't really concern him, like his mom is bullying her, but if a stranger is rude to his girlfriend, then he’ll punch that guy in the nose! Unless he's bigger or more threatening.
